Let me start by saying that I have thought a LONG time about writing this post. If you aren't on Facebook, you won't care, but if you are......by the end of this post, you will either defriend me or "like" as much as you can. Which should explain why I have waited so long to post this.
I like Facebook. I check it almost every day. I love keeping up with old friends or family who don't live close. It's a great way to keep "in the loop" with them. With that being said, Facebook has driven me crazy lately and there are some people who are on the verge of being deleted! I know that we have free speech, but some things don't need to be posted on Facebook no matter how vague or unimportant they seem.
Here are a few things that I think should be understood rules of Facebook. I'm sure I'm a culprit of committing some of these Facebook "crimes," but I try hard not too.
So let's begin, and hopefully you won't hate me by the end.
1. No one cares what you look like in the mirror!! You care, I'm sure. But I don't care to see your mirror posing self unless you have a ginormous baby belly or sweet friend in the picture too. I'm mainly talking about the trashy, provocative photos. You know if you do/have done this.
2. No one cares about your baby daddy drama. Maybe we should, but most of us don't really want to see your vague status' about him/her.
3. This leads me to status'. Don't post "vague" negative status'. You know that by doing that, everyone thinks that you are talking about them right? Not to mention, they show your true colors.
Are your still with me?
4. Please don't blow up my newsfeed with 20+ reposted "cute" or "funny" pictures. You probably really enjoyed them, but everyone else might not.
5. We all have a political opinion, and there is a time and place for that but more importantly.....don't put down those who don't agree.
6. Fights on Facebook make me laugh. Messages, status', comments. Cmon people. Give each other the decency to talk privately. While it is entertaining for those of us not involved, I don't need the drama. Also, don't read in to everyone's comments and assume you know what they mean or assume that they are talking about you. Ask.
7. Finally, Complaining CONSTANTLY is a good way to lose friends. No one likes to be around people who complain.
I'm sure I've received some cheers after all of this and likewise, some of you may have already deleted me from your account.
Let me clarify that there is no ONE person who comes to mind with all of these. Everyone does them in moderation, it's those that are constant that drive me insane and there are quite a few. I say all of this in the kindest way possible, but someone had to say it!
Always remember, treat people the way you want to be treated. Don't get your panties in a wod before you know the truth. Be careful with what you post, you never know who will see it. And use Facebook for good, not evil......
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Mommy 101
I'm sitting here putting Carter to sleep, and I finally have the time to write. I had the idea for this post earlier while showering and getting ready. (I do my best thinking then!) Little did I know, I would have learned more by the end of the day.
I thought it would be interesting to give you a few thoughts that I have learned since becoming a mom. Things that never occurred to me before or just things that I never quite grasped.
I feared becoming a mom. I knew I would have to be responsible. I was in charge. What if I did "it" wrong? What if I hated "it"? I certainly couldn't return my child nor could I "quit". If I were to talk to any upcoming mom, these are a few of the things I would say. (and none of them are "enjoy it, it goes by too fast") I'm sure other moms feel me on some of these points.
- I never understood God's love for me until I became a parent. Yes, I KNEW he loved me, but now I understand it from a protective, only want the best for you standpoint. I fell in love with God all over again and on a deeper level when He blessed our lives with Carter.
-I'm a mom and wife first and a housekeeper second. Yep, little miss OCD has to leave dishes in the sink every once in a while. Those few extra moments with my husband and child mean more than the laundry, and I've cut myself a little slack!
-There is a momma bear in me. So, I apologize if I now take up for anyone and everyone that I feel necessary. And when it comes to raising my child, don't push. It's not polite.
-Trust your instincts. You're a mom, you've got em! The first time I thought Carter was sick, it wasn't quite "noticeable" yet. 24 hours later, confirmed. When I thought he was teething, 1 week later, a porcelain, pearly white torture weapon appeared through the swollen gums. Trust them always!
-Everyone does things differently. Sites like pampers and gerber and parenting are GUIDELINES, NOT RULES. (wish I would have known that early on. Would have saved a lot of stress)
-Never google anything. Just don't. You'll save yourself tons of heartache and grey hair. Everyone's child had some deadly rash or fever that led to a coma or something traumatic like that, and I assure you, you'll assume your rash or 101 fever will do the same.
Every day is something new. Psh, every minute is something new. (30 minutes ago I was wiping puke off of my pants) I wouldn't trade any of it and I cherish all of those moments. Yes, all of them. I am a great mother. I love and care for my child. I listen to my instincts. I do things the way that is best for us. And I assure you, this momma bear is packin' if you try to state otherwise.
I'm sure there is much more to learn, but for now, these are what matter.
I thought it would be interesting to give you a few thoughts that I have learned since becoming a mom. Things that never occurred to me before or just things that I never quite grasped.
I feared becoming a mom. I knew I would have to be responsible. I was in charge. What if I did "it" wrong? What if I hated "it"? I certainly couldn't return my child nor could I "quit". If I were to talk to any upcoming mom, these are a few of the things I would say. (and none of them are "enjoy it, it goes by too fast") I'm sure other moms feel me on some of these points.
- I never understood God's love for me until I became a parent. Yes, I KNEW he loved me, but now I understand it from a protective, only want the best for you standpoint. I fell in love with God all over again and on a deeper level when He blessed our lives with Carter.
-I'm a mom and wife first and a housekeeper second. Yep, little miss OCD has to leave dishes in the sink every once in a while. Those few extra moments with my husband and child mean more than the laundry, and I've cut myself a little slack!
-There is a momma bear in me. So, I apologize if I now take up for anyone and everyone that I feel necessary. And when it comes to raising my child, don't push. It's not polite.
-Trust your instincts. You're a mom, you've got em! The first time I thought Carter was sick, it wasn't quite "noticeable" yet. 24 hours later, confirmed. When I thought he was teething, 1 week later, a porcelain, pearly white torture weapon appeared through the swollen gums. Trust them always!
-Everyone does things differently. Sites like pampers and gerber and parenting are GUIDELINES, NOT RULES. (wish I would have known that early on. Would have saved a lot of stress)
-Never google anything. Just don't. You'll save yourself tons of heartache and grey hair. Everyone's child had some deadly rash or fever that led to a coma or something traumatic like that, and I assure you, you'll assume your rash or 101 fever will do the same.
Every day is something new. Psh, every minute is something new. (30 minutes ago I was wiping puke off of my pants) I wouldn't trade any of it and I cherish all of those moments. Yes, all of them. I am a great mother. I love and care for my child. I listen to my instincts. I do things the way that is best for us. And I assure you, this momma bear is packin' if you try to state otherwise.
I'm sure there is much more to learn, but for now, these are what matter.
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